How To Cut Back On Emotional Spending with Leslie Tayne – EP 260

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There are times when we think we love spending which is, certainly, far from the truth. This is when we realize that they might be our emotions taking over. Today we are bringing you back to Jen & Jill’s favorite episode about emotionally charged spending with Leslie Tayne, which hopefully will help you overpower your emotions and acknowledge these feelings in a positive and healthier way. 

Learning ourselves better empowers and helps us continue on that trajectory of making good, healthy decisions for ourselves.


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Leslie H. Tayne, Esq. is a New York debt settlement attorney with nearly 20 years’ experience in the practice area of consumer and business financial debt-related services. She is highly accomplished in negotiation and settlements, and has gone up against large national banks, credit unions, collection agencies and multiple creditor legal representatives. 

Emotional Spending

Emotional spending is usually tied to an emotion and you’re doing it for a particular reason rather than doing it as a necessity. It is usually motivated to make a purchase from a particular feeling. Most of the time, there’s an after feeling as well such as the feeling of emptiness, guilt or remorse. 

Identifying emotions that trigger spending

Now is not the time to start figuring out why you’re doing what you’re doing. Start looking at your past purchases and analyze those to provide you an insight and reason behind it. Leslie also highly recommends journaling as a way to identify these emotions. 

Alternatives to emotional spending

You can find ways for a healthier outlet to distract yourself from a particular feeling– you can take a walk, write about it, do yoga or exercise and more. It is also important to talk about it to someone, a friend or a significant other as these are helpful and healthy ways to get to know yourself better. A lot of it is really being powerful within yourself and your mind to identify and understand your own emotions and what you could do to make changes to it. 

How you can recover if you've made an emotional purchase

Do not be hard on yourself wherein you’re constantly beating yourself up. Be kind to yourself by being proud and acknowledging your own emotions. Write down these emotions and the changes you can make going forward. Understand that the recovery process can sometimes take you one step forward and two steps back. 

What type of emotional spender are you?

  • Leslie: Shop to escape 
  • Jill: treat yo’ self-er
  • Jen: Shop to escape 

Find out the different types of emotional spending from this Bustle article.

Bill of The Week

Thank you Leslie for sharing your bill about your recurring purchases and how you negotiated EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

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